The secret to experiencing deeper unconditional love is allowing each other to grow spiritually.
I’ve learned that love is wanting others to be happy without it needing it to be about you. They are not dependent on me for their happiness, and I am not dependent on them.
It’s when you can show up without criticism and judgment and allow them to be exactly who they are that love is exchanged.
Unconditional love doesn’t always come the family we were born into because criticism, judgment, and the resulting expectations are a big part of family culture.
Learn forgiveness. This isn’t about allowing someone to wipe their feet all over you; it’s about choosing to react in a better way, a kinder way for yourself. If someone has hurt you or let you down, choose forgiveness by letting go of the anger and resentment you have towards them. How you act towards a specific person will change depending on what has happened, but if you choose to act lovingly and not hold on to negative feelings, you will love them unconditionally.
Adapt your love to others. Love is received and given to others in many different forms and, unfortunately, there is not a ‘one size fits all’ philosophy. Unconditional love is a conscious decision you make every day and in every new situation that comes along. There are no rules laid out for everyone, you apply it person by person. How would it feel to be you, if you accepted yourself completely, just as you are? Reclaim your power to change and move forward with more peace and clarity in your life as you are held in the healing embrace of acceptance.
Expectations of how we were to behave, what we were supposed to know, who were expected to be, and the kind of person we needed to marry were clear.
Harmony exists because everyone knows what to say and what not say. The moment I stepped out of my “family box,” something shifted. My happiness grew, and I unexpectedly discovered what unconditional love meant. I learned that happiness is a changing state of being, and love can be experienced on many different levels.
But what about things people say and do that have destructive consequences?
When you let go of needing others to live according to your “right” way, you realize how others respond is simply a projection of their reality.
A shift can now happen away from your fear-based ego, toward love and compassion where you can seek to understand, share, teach, and model. Trying to be patient is next to impossible in the place of fear, but shift to love and you will find all the patience you need.
We are all seeking truth, but truth is in the eye of the beholder. Discernment not judgment leads you to truth by getting curious and noticing whether someone’s perception of reality comes from love or fear. It’s the difference between competition and cooperation; doubt and trust. It will lead to holding on or letting go.
You stand in a place of superiority when you judge, and see others as inferior. It’s a destructive energy of being attached to “I am right” that you project onto someone else. Notice that what comes back will be defensiveness because no one believes they are “wrong.” Criticism is also being attached to “I am right,” but you don’t necessarily see someone as inferior.
The Golden Rule found in all spiritual teachings: are you treating someone the way you want to be treated? Who wants to be treated to criticism and judgment?
Loving Yourself and your soul
This is very important in your growth as a loving spirit/human being. Loving yourself will open up your heart to love others maturely. Start by looking at yourself in the mirror and stare at your self and tell yourself in the mirror " I love you , I always have".. And feel the love going to your heart. Do this every morning and every evening. Soon you will be able to call on your own soul and tell your soul, " I love you , I always have". Sometimes this brings tears and happiness. You will feel this in your heart and mid section. Next imagine hugging your soul and your soul huggin you. Feel how complete that spiritual thought makes you feel. LG